I have been there!! For most of my adult life, fear has been the wall that popped up in front of me, the hurdle that seemingly appeared to be 10 feet tall, and the immovable mountain that has engulfed me. I never knew that the fears I had, were just figments in my own mind!! Fear of what people would think, fear of how I would look, fear of someone knowing me and judging me, fear of allowing people to get close too me and the list goes on and on. Much to my dismay, all of these fears were made up in my own mind and prevented me from moving forward in life. They were all thoughts that were not real and I had no idea how to fight them, never mind conquer them. Fear had me right where it wanted, stuck in a deadly quicksand, and if I ever tried to move past my fears, I would somehow regress and sink even deeper and deeper into my own little bubble, barely even being able to breathe!!!
Finally, someone told me that the fears inside my mind have been created by me, and are truly not real. Someone said to me, “who cares what people think about you, as long as you keep doing the right thing day in and day out, it is their problem if they judge you and never make their problem yours!” It was just the catalyst I needed to start understanding that it was my own mind that was playing tricks on me. I found out that it was not the “outside influences” I was fearful about, but it was truly the “inside influences” that permeated my heart like a hot knife through butter!! I came to the realization that if I wanted to fight my fears and yes, even conquer them, I had to “face my fears” head on and not run from them!!!! If I wanted my life to progress, instead of regress, I had to climb that wall, I needed to jump that hurdle, and move that immovable mountain, and discover the beauty that is on the other side of my fears, and I did just that.
Since the day when I decided to “face my hears”, beautiful doorways have opened up for me and I have been able to walk through them all. Fear is no longer a part of my life and life, since the realization that fear is not real, has become serene and wonderful for me, and it can definitely be that way for you as well..
So tell me, do you have fears in your life that have become a wall, a hurdle, or a mountain? Are you having a hard time facing them and seeing that beautiful other side of fear? If so, you are truly missing out on the beauty that life has to offer. Please understand that I am not saying that it is easy to overcome and conquer fear, but yes, it can be done!! It is a process, not a snap your fingers, overnight miracle that you will encounter. If you want to leave your fears behind you, then face them, look them in the eye, and declare that you are stronger then them!!!!! You are better than you think, stronger than you know, and wiser beyond your years. If you put your whole heart and soul into it, your fears will dissipate, never rearing their ugly head again!!!!! I promise you that!!!!!
Have a great day!!!
Regards,
Rich Barnes
Rich Barnes